Stages of Grief and Loss

I. Shock and Denial:

We become temporarily anesthetized against the reality of the event. This state of shock can be helpful because we do not have to comprehend the magnitude of the loss all at once. Slowed/disorganized thinking.

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II. Anger:

We begin to feel a sense of outrage and protest, stemming from a sense of helplessness in our inability to prevent what has happened. Fear and guilt begin to surface.

III. Bargaining:

We attempt to control what is happening. Bargaining with a higher power or with ourselves is frequently the result of feelings of fear and guilt, even self-blame.

IV. Depression:

At this stage, we may experience a sense of utter loneliness, despair and isolation. It is very important to reach out in this stage. Now and then a glimmer of hope emerges.

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V. Acceptance:

Little by little, emotional balance returns with proper support and encouragement. Although grieving is still painful, we begin to resume our life's activities. We are never our "old selves" again, but it is possible to live, laugh and love again.